But feminism, too, is often a prisoner of Hefnerism, in the sense that it tends to prescribe more and more “sex positivity,” insisting that the only problem with contemporary sexual culture is that it’s imperfectly egalitarian, insufficiently celebratory of female agency and desire.
This means that the feminist prescription doesn’t supply what men slipping down into the darkness of misogyny most immediately need: not lectures on how they need to respect women as sexual beings, but reasons, despite their lack of sexual experience, to first respect themselves as men.Yeah, that's exactly what Rodger needed -- a lot more self-regard "as a man." He could've even made a video on the subject.
Men who hate women have plenty of respect for themselves as men. They think they're entitled to respect because they're men, and that women are entitled to less or none because they're not. They're not sex positive; they're violence/abuse positive. Sex positivity is about respect, a concept foreign to Douthat and the parts of that book he's forever humping.